recently, some friends came to me to talk about their love life. maybe i seems like a consultant regarding this kind of thing, wahaha~ but in fact, i do have my weak points too. many ask me, how i can overcome it? how i can take some things so lightly? i can say, i dont take it lightly at one shot, alot of things needs time to get out, needs to understand to see through, needs belief to be able to let go. if some thing to you is unable to let go, i can for sure you can never let it go because you dont even believe that you could. isnt it? different people view things differently, in fact everyone clearly knows that no one in this world is EXACTLY the same, but everyone often expect people to be the same as they are, especially towards those they loved. because in your inner heart, you hope he/she can be like what you wish he/she can be. & this is human natural. even you might not really mean so, but naturally we are because we had feelings. its never ever able to see your loved ones with another person but yet you are REALLY very happy. you can choose to let he/she go, but sadness is something that definitely will be felt, its just how long it takes for you to really let it go. =) to me, the biggest hurt is from someone who loved me most, so those who dont really worth my love, i can easily let it go. every failed relationship, there is no whoever's fault. there is no right or wrong, there is no who did right who did wrong. if there must be a blame, then both parties is in fault. if he leave me for other girl, maybe on the surface, people will point the finger at him and says he is heartless. but think again, if i am really that good and really suitable enough to hold his heart, he wont fall for someone else either. relationship is not about what you do, how much you love, how much you commit. to me, its about mutual understanding, trust and communication to hold it strong but of cause, there must be feelings involved to. sometimes i fall for someone i dont even know why, sometimes i just like that someone even if he is so god damn sucks to the core, but its just so naturally and uncontrollable. dont ask why it happen because there is no answer to it. when you fall, you just fall. and perhaps you dont even know how you fall. last time, i used to wonder why, i cant figure out and i made myself stressful over this kind of love thing. because i dont know what to do, and i am afraid to do. i am afraid of losing, and i want my dignity, because i am afraid that if i say the real thing out, what will happen.. but now. i dont. because i dont want to live in regret. like means like, cannot avoid. keeping and hiding is just making myself feel terrible but no one knows. and maybe perhaps making that party feels terrible too. what if he is also waiting for your response? isnt it? yes, maybe he is not. but when you confess, when you say, you know the truth. yes, maybe there is sadness, disappointment, awkwardness, however bad it could be, however hurt it can be, but trust me, no pain no gain. thats what i believe. if you never felt hurt, then its harder to let go. even if you dont get what you wish for, but you gain experience, you gain self-improvement, and maybe you gain a friend. =) i believe everyone had their own healing power, healing skill. its born in us, its just how willingly we want to use them. dont say you cant, you are just stubborn. because not till the end of your life, you cant say you cant! you can, its just a matter of when... if you come and tell me you cant let it go, then i will just tell you dont let go then. isnt it? i dont let go easily, but when i really able to let go, seriously the truth is i dont even know how i did it. because it is just so NATURALLY, and you just will realise it just like the very first moment like how NATURALLY you fall for it~ =D